Part of me often feels there needs to be a special interest group for white men (WM) of generic Caucasian descent because the phrase "you have everything" is pretty much their description. The ability of a WM to define himself as a WM is increasingly limited. That is, it seems hard to ask the question, "Who should I be as a WM?" with out get stuck into fear that doing so is somehow being offensive to racial minorities or women. So, it appears white male identity branches off into other areas, like ethnicity, lifestyle or profession--making being white seem almost neutral, when it carries with it as many stereotypes, history and biology as any other race. I mean, to say "I'm proud to be gay" or "I'm proud to be black" is quite accepted. To say, "I'm proud to be white" sounds like you're joining a supremacy group. Although having pride, in my mind, is really about self-respect and, by that merit, acceptance. Ah, the myriad of things we're gifted with at birth.

The whole thing reminds a lot of the plight of fathers to be recognized as potentially equals with mothers in children's lives and to have legal rights that reflect that.

And I'm going to say yes, as female and bisexual I have experienced special privileges that would not have been offered to a WM of my same age, education and socioeconomic class. At the same time, I've been physically and verbally assaulted because of my gender and sexuality. [Although, I've also had that pleasure thanks to my ethnicity, race and physical appearance as well.]

I don't know. I love you. Not because you're a guy, not because you're straight and not because you're white. I love you because you're Peter, a wonderful human.