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xoder ([personal profile] xoder) wrote2008-04-13 01:39 pm
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"Jeepers, creepers..."

I was talking with [livejournal.com profile] faerykat and I realized that I've never really been ogled. I mean, there was one time I was at Vertex, and this very drunk 40+ lady (at the time, twice my age) called out, "Hey tall stuff!" very thickly, but I don't think that counts. What is it like? Is it always negative? How do you know? Do you have a notable ogling story (as either the oglee or the ogler)?

[identity profile] zandperl.livejournal.com 2008-04-13 10:09 pm (UTC)(link)
I think I was in college at the time, and few friends and I were walking in Battery Park on a break and a guy wolf-whistled and called something about a hot ass. Both me and one of my friends thought it was ourselves (he wasn't very specific on which ass he liked), and neither of us were very happy with it. The guy was probably in his mid-thirties, and looked nearly homeless. Maybe if he'd been hot we wouldn't've minded.

FWIW, just about every guy I knew growing up in NYC had gotten mugged, and just about every girl I knew had a creep sit next to her on the subway and shove his hands in his pants. That's not ogling though, that really wasn't about *us* per se, but was more about the guy.

[identity profile] xoder.livejournal.com 2008-04-13 10:59 pm (UTC)(link)
See, [livejournal.com profile] shoujo_mallet has some lovely horror stories of the latter type from her travails on the 7 train. I was going to say I've never been witness to such a thing, but a few months ago there was a very drunk older Hispanic guy who was trying to take a piss on the doors even though his buddy was trying to convince him not to. Quite odd...

[identity profile] shoujo-mallet.livejournal.com 2008-04-14 10:55 am (UTC)(link)
One those many situations where if you don't speak Spanish, you don't know what's going on until too late.

[identity profile] shoujo-mallet.livejournal.com 2008-04-14 10:54 am (UTC)(link)
I love the distinction wouldn't have minded if he/she/they were attractive. Not as direct comment about you or that situation, but I know too many people that take that exception to heart and approve of, in my mind at least, inappropriate behavior just because someone's attractive.

But I may have more contact to this behavior because I go to Fashion School...yeah

[identity profile] zandperl.livejournal.com 2008-04-14 11:48 am (UTC)(link)
I suspect I would have thought it rude either way, but I would've been less likely to be *scared* w/ a different person.