I really appreciate that you call me pretty, wonderful, awesome and all sorts of adjectives. What I don't like is how often you say them.
Yes, gods, it sounds stupid whenever I say it out loud. I should be happy for the praise. Yet, I think that a good portion of your friends would agree there is something infantile about the way you compliment us--the repetitiveness, the way you say it often without regard to situation, mood or time constraint and the generality of the compliments.
I know you love, care for and think the world of me. It feels like nothing about me in particular stands out though. I am the bestest girlfriend in the world and can do anything, but that doesn't say a lot.
The compliments I treasure the most from you are when you bring up something tangible and specific about me. It may be about the food I cooked, the dress I'm wearing, a joke I just made, but then it feels like you're paying attention to me instead repeating your general image of me without regard to the present.
Also, I think these work best on strangers. "Look, I'm not JUST creepy, I can point out something that I am attracted to you by aside from you're a breathing female! I love your hair color."
I don't mean stop calling me pretty every now and again with provocation, but not every hour we're together, to start every IM conversation or to sign off every e-mail.
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Date: 2006-11-09 11:13 pm (UTC)Yes, gods, it sounds stupid whenever I say it out loud. I should be happy for the praise. Yet, I think that a good portion of your friends would agree there is something infantile about the way you compliment us--the repetitiveness, the way you say it often without regard to situation, mood or time constraint and the generality of the compliments.
I know you love, care for and think the world of me. It feels like nothing about me in particular stands out though. I am the bestest girlfriend in the world and can do anything, but that doesn't say a lot.
The compliments I treasure the most from you are when you bring up something tangible and specific about me. It may be about the food I cooked, the dress I'm wearing, a joke I just made, but then it feels like you're paying attention to me instead repeating your general image of me without regard to the present.
Also, I think these work best on strangers. "Look, I'm not JUST creepy, I can point out something that I am attracted to you by aside from you're a breathing female! I love your hair color."
I don't mean stop calling me pretty every now and again with provocation, but not every hour we're together, to start every IM conversation or to sign off every e-mail.